The awareness that giving and receiving are the same is essential in recognizing how we make our world and how we can change it. Our thoughts are both the cause and the effect of our experience. Choose to judge your brother and you will suffer the unhappiness and pain of what you judged him for. Forgive and choose to love him and you will feel all the joy that loving brings. Now recognize that the one you would condemn or love is a part of you and as you have forgiven him, he has returned the Grace of Heaven to you.