What is perhaps the hardest thing for us to recognize and then accept is that what seems to be our perception of others is not about them at all. Yet, correspondingly, we are so accustomed to projecting our self criticism onto them, it is thru recognizing what we judge them for that we learn why we judge ourselves. This is why we are encouraged to “see our brother’s holiness,” for that is where we have hidden our own. The discovery, then, of finding them together confirms the recognition of our Self as whole and undivided.