The world you see, and so your life experience, are bound by how you see the one you judge most harshly. This is true because that one represents the deepest fears about yourself. It must also be true then, that to find the holiness of this one reveals the loving presence you thought that you had lost. Forgiveness is the way you find his holiness, and yours. What is true of him must be true of you, for neither has escaped the Mind of God.