Seeing differently is not about how to see what is painful in a loving way. Seeing differently is about changing the perspective from which you see from the ego’s perception that sin and separation are real, to the Vision of the Holy Spirit that only Love is real. In this awareness there is no belief in sin, no thoughts of pain and suffering in the mind that sees the world and so none to be found in the world it sees. The world we see mirrors only our thoughts about it. When you have accepted there is only love in the reality of the Mind you share with God, Heaven is all you will see.