The more grievous someone’s behavior appears to us, the greater the urge we feel to judge. Yet this is also the greatest opportunity to release ourselves from our greatest fear. It is the one whose sin we find unforgivable who is the clearest mirror for the “reason” we cannot be freely loved. Be grateful, then, and know this brother was brought to you for your forgiveness in this most holy moment. Step back from your story of the world. For just an instant push the past aside and feel the Presence of love this Son of God can offer you. An instant will be enough, for now the fear of loving and of being loved has gone.