When you see less than perfect loving in your brother it is because you do not see him at all. You see an illusion of him mirroring an illusion of yourself. If you would find the truth of yourself you must not think that the story he tells of his illusion is real. Whether in truth or illusion, you will think you both are the same. You can choose to either love him for who he really is, or hate him because his story seems different from yours. Either way, what you think is true of him is now charting the course of your life experience.